Sunday, July 4, 2010

Sunday Morning

The house is very quiet right now because I cant seem to stop waking up in time to get the kids ready for school in spite of the fact that school has been out a month now. Soon they will all be up and getting ready for church. Today will be our new little girls first sunday in church with us and they are excited about going. Today is 4th of July so we will come home and have a little picnic and let the kids have some fun on the slip and slide. I am thankful to live in the USA. Our country may have its problems but when you compare us to some of the other countries you read about in the paper and see on the news I think I would feel a little ashamed to complain. At least in my country as a female, wife and mother I am not considered to be a piece of property. Lord knows we have a long ways to go in America but we have certainly been blessed beyond reason.
We will soon be blessed with the finalization of another adoption. J and N have been with us for a long time. The birth mother of these 2 boys loves them very much and I know she does. The problem was that she just didnt feel compelled to do anything that was required of her by DSS to remedy the situation that brought them into care. The court did not want to return them to her care. It is sad to see a family torn apart but the really sad part about this one is she sees no fault of her own in the entire ordeal. The boys grew angry with her over a period of time. She feels like I put that anger in them. I dont even respond to her when she attempts to engage me in a shouting match...I dont feel like that kind of foolishness is worth my time however I never stopped reminding these boys that no matter how they thought they were feeling that she is still the woman who gave them life and she deserves their respect for that. I have received a few vulgar toungue lashings from this woman but its all good. I pray for her. I personally dont believe that she will ever be able to mend any fences with these boys until she accepts the responsibility for her own actions. In the meantime I will continue to watch these boys grow and flourish. God has his hands on both of them I know they are destined for greatness. I dont believe these boys should write her off forever because I think someday they are going to have some questions that only she will be able to answer for them. I think its a hole that all foster children have if that makes any sense.
So we are a family of 6 children now. Each of them a blessing in their own way. God really does work miracles. I see it often.

1 comment:

  1. hi mary, it's been awhile since I've been on your blog and I am glad you are still writing. I really enjoy your entries. keep up the awesome work with the kids. I know it is taxing some days but in a lot of cases you are the best influence these children have and they need you. I admire your dedication. take care! ashley

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You will notice that many times I refer to the children that live in my home by just an initial. I also blur out the faces of all the children that live in my home in any pictures you may see on this blog. It isnt that I am not proud of them...I do this in order to maintain the confidentiality of the children and their families.